Looking for something short, powerful, and thoughtful to quickly illustrate some of the issues facing LGBT elders? Check out “Too Old to Remember,” the video of a song commissioned by a British social charity.
The dirge-like song, performed by the All Aloud LGBT Choir of Sheffield, England, and accompanied by pictures of LGBT elders, asks people, “Won’t you share these stories with us when we’re too old to remember?” and then tells both happy and sad stories of LGBT elders. One stanza, for instance, says:
I was shy and just a bachelor
And I’m ashamed to say,
I got myself a lesbian friend,
As cover in those days.
I tried to keep my head down,
I made jokes was anti-gay,
And I still can’t trust authority,
I fear it every day.”
Another stanza talks about a lesbian with dementia whose caregivers dressed her femininely and “made her into someone else.”
Check it out at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yhwfbk5eMLs
SAGE wants your story!
You have until 5:00 p.m. EST on Wednesday, November 6, 2013, to submit your answers to these questions: What does ‘community’ mean to you? How do you stay connected to the people who matter most to you?
You can submit your answers in writing (300-500 words), as a video, as a photograph (up to 3 MB), or as a podcast.
Although copyright will remain with you, your submission gives SAGE the right to share your submission on their website. SAGE will select and post the top entries, and visitors will vote on their favorite (between November 7-21, 2013) to determine the winner of a $50 Amazon gift certificate.
For more information and to enter, go to http://www.sageusa.org/programs/sagestory-share.cfm
The Huffington Post has produced a 20-minute video, “Retirement Home-ophobia,” that gives a great overview of LGBT housing issues, including interviews with several LGBT elders and housing providers.
But what makes the piece invaluable is a quote from widow Alice Herman that starts around minute 9:20. Talking about the recent loss of her life-partner, she said, “All that made me real was my history. I had a 45-year history of love. And if I couldn’t talk about it, share it, where was my life?”
There, in a nutshell, is why LGBT-affirming services are so critical. Check it out at http://live.huffingtonpost.com/#r/segment/elderly-gays%3B-lgbt-nursing-homes/51140a38fe344437520001da
Everyone interested in LGBT aging issues needs to see the groundbreaking and heart-tugging documentary Gen Silent, and it’s available for online viewing at no cost this week only. Go to http://stumaddux.com/XDO_Viewer_2.html Don’t forget to tell the service providers you know!
It’s not always easy to recognize history in the making, but many people thought they saw just that in a seminal speech delivered this week by Secretary of State Hilary Clinton at the United Nations in Geneva. Continue reading
Connie Kopelov, 84, and her partner of 23 years, Phyllis Siegal, age 76, were among the first New York couples to get married this morning, echoing the first same-sex marriage in California, between Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin, who were of similar ages at the time.
If you’re the type who likes to cry at weddings, be sure to watch the video newsclip by NY1.com, at http://www.ny1.com/content/top_stories/143554/marriage-equality-comes-to-the-city