Monthly Archives: September 2013

Veterans Home Hosts Gay Marriage

gay vets marriageThe Chula Vista (California) Veterans Home hosted its first gay marriage this past week.

John Banvard, 95 and a World War II veteran, married his partner of 20 years, Gerard Nadeau, 67, who served in Vietnam, at their home of three years, the Chula Vista Veterans Home.

Fox 5 reported, “Many of the couple’s friends who live at the veteran’s home attended the small and simple ceremony.”  However, the facility also held a town hall meeting prior to the ceremony “to address concerns from other residents.”

You can read the article and see a short video at

“I Never Knew a Transgender Person Could Be…Somewhat Valuable Within a Church”

Rosie Del MarYet another aging-related piece in this week’s Advocate is “Op-ed: 72, Transgender, and Finally Myself,” a profile of Rosie Del Mar.

Del Mar’s story is similar to some others of her age in that she describes multiple life phases in which she tried to live in different genders and sexual orientations, with corresponding changes in the ways she could make a living.  What makes her story different from some other trans elders’ is the kinds and amounts of support she experienced, which included multiple church homes and, now, an affordable living complex for LGBT elders.  Still, even with the support she’s found, she was surprised five years ago when she was asked to become a deacon at her latest church.  “I never knew a transgender person could be looked upon as somewhat valuable within a church,” she said.

The article is available at